I feel like this would be a good book for anyone to read, but especially if you are considering doing a transracial adoption or if you have already done one. For us, we didn't go out seeking a child of a race different than our own. We just left things open and Little A's birth mom chose our family. Little A is a gift from God, and we also believe God chose her for our family. I have always viewed people as people.....just unique in the outer appearances. I completely look past color of skin, because after all, don't we all have different shades, tones, and colors?? After reading this book, though, I realized that could be a somewhat naive statement.
Reading this book stretched me to think beyond my own perspective. For one thing, maybe I have never had a problem with racism, but it isn't necessarily right for me to just brush it off and think it doesn't matter. I realized after reading this book, that I will never fully know what it is like to walk in Little A's shoes. I will never know what it feels like to look completely different than your entire family, your friends, and community. I will have no idea what it would feel like to go through identity issues as a teenager, not only as an adoptee, but also being from a different race. Through it all, though, I do believe that God is greater than all that, and I know that He has a special plan for Little A's life. I know that He will give us the wisdom and direction with how to handle different issues as they come up. I am thankful for the fresh perspective from this book, though. I am encouraged to be Little A's advocate through her entire life. I am encouraged to let Little A pursue her heritage and culture as she desires. I don't want to just pretend like we are all exactly the same in our family, because we are not. But at the same time, Little A is fully our beloved child!! I desire to raise Little A to know how loved and special she is, by both her birthmom and by us. I desire for her to know how much Jesus loves her. I want to help her in the best way possible as she develops her own identity. I want her to have friends and role models who look like her. I am searching my heart and praying for God to provide these things. I think it will be challenging at times as she grows older, but completely attainable.
The most encouraging thing I have read from the book is that all of the adoptees (they were all adopted into families of different race than themselves) ultimately agreed that being placed in a loving family was the best thing that could have happened to them. They have all agreed that while it might have been nice to be in a family of same color, it wasn't the most important thing at all. They all expressed love and appreciation for their adoptive parents. I am most of all clinging to the fact, that I can tell Little A someday about my adoption too...........that I became a daughter of God through the work of His Son, Jesus, on the cross. I know that there are going to be obstacles and challenges...........but I also know that God has a plan in the life of our family. I am trusting Him to provide us with friends, resources, whatever we might need to help Little A grow and develop in a way that is meaningful to her and shows her how much she is loved, cherished and special. Reading this book was helpful, but I am thankful my greatest council comes from God's Word.
Does anyone know of any other good books regarding transracial adoption? What about transracial adoption from a biblical perspective?
|We love you so much, Little A!! You are beautiful :)|