Proverbs 16:24 "Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones."
This week I have been studying the topic of communication, through Kay Arthur's marriage study called "A Marriage Without Regrets" This verse, found in Proverbs, has given our family such joy and encouragement this week. I wrote it on a large index card and put it on our dining room table, and we are helping each other to memorize it this week. I have seriously noticed a "healing effect" in our family life this past couple of days, just by being more aware of the words we speak.
I keep picturing a honeycomb full and overflowing with sweet honey and it has helped me to be more aware of the words I speak to my children and to my husband. I have noticed the kids being more aware of how they speak to one another. In general, there has been a feeling of "sweetness" towards one another in our family. It is refreshing and uplifting. Our words can either be used to damage, or to build up another person. I have always known this, but after studying the topic of communcation this week, I was challenged NOT to be reckless with my words. The words that come from our mouths all go hand in hand with what is in our hearts. I posted yesterday about walking in the Spirit, and I feel like that topic carries into today. I can't speak careful words and words that build someone else up, without the help of the Holy Spirit. I need to ABIDE in Christ, to be able to bear this kind of fruit. (John 15:4-5). There is a lady I went to college with and she has actually been blogging about the topic of abiding this past month. You should check out her blog for more on that subject: Kristi Stephens My mouth overflows from what is in my heart. I desire to be overflowing with sweet and pleasant words that heal and not destroy.
I don't know about you, but communication in a marriage is hard work. Adding multiple kids to the picture, along with added life pressures can make it sometimes seem that no communication at all would almost be a better option. Obviously ceasing to communicate wouldn't solve anything, so how do we communicate openly, honestly, and with love? Kay Arthur challenged us to ask God to show us how we "come across" to other people....especially our mate, or our childen, or even other intimate relationships that might show how you communicate. She said that communcation is a delicate art. I agree with that statement wholeheartedly, and after studying many verses and spending time in prayer, I realized I am in need of some art lessons :) I am eagerly anticipating our small group discussion for this week so that we can share our ideas and what the Lord is teaching us in this area.
I really want to share EVERYTHING that I read and learned this week, but I would probably lose some readers or risk putting some of you to sleep. If you have ever thought about getting this study, I would highly recommend it, even if just for this week of "communication" alone. I feel like anyone: single, married, widowed, divorced, etc. could benefit from a thorough study on the topic of communication.
I especially wanted to share this one little verse from Proverbs that I have noticed has had a transformative effect on our family this week. I hope it can bring some encouragement to your homes and to your lives. What are some of your ideas on how to communicate in your homes? What verses do you teach your children to encourage them in this area? What is in your heart? What are your words revealing about what is in your heart?
I was talking to K-lady this morning about pleasant words and she decided that she wanted to draw a picture of our family communcating together. I will leave you with this :) :)